A journey toward alignment, meaning and connection.
My Story
But first a bit about me personally..First and foremost, I am father of two incredible teenage children who are now 13yrs old. I bring a high degree of passion and thoughtfulness to nearly everything I do and live in a way where my primary values of integrity, growth, belonging and congruency act as my compass points.
I have always been into hobbies that take me to the edge of feeling contact with life. I love animals, especially horses and dogs. In fact, a core passion of mine for many years was training and competing working German Shepherd Dogs; therein lived my itch to study behavior and foster potential.
I am a man of my word although it took me quite some time to act on those words for myself. I am into all things related to health and wellbeing. When I chose to take a personal sabbatical, I experienced magic in ways that words will not do justice.
I am into permaculture and thoroughly enjoy growing food for my family. I am an avid bow hunter and deeply reverent to all things that exist in the natural world. I love listening to what others have to say and thrive in moments of reciprocity. Witnessing others achieve their own greatness lights me up!
The Restless Beginning
For nearly two decades, I built a career in the fast-paced world of enterprise technology. On paper, it was everything I thought I wanted including success, recognition, and stability. Yet beneath the momentum was a quiet restlessness, a sense that something essential was missing. I had achieved much of what I set out to do, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that my life was moving faster than my ability to feel connected to it.
I was in my early 40’s when I was about 5 yrs into being a single father and raising two beautiful children on my own. I had many questions I wanted to explore the answers to but I simply didn’t have the awareness or skills to explore them in a meaningful way. I wanted to perform better in my career, in ways that raised me to greater states of flow and that were in full alignment with my unique strengths and gifts. I wanted to be more present for my children, especially as they approached their teenage years. I had many wants that were not being fulfilled and those that were, did not come from a heart-centered place. While I enjoyed my career and having a positive impact, there was a deeper calling that my soul was tugging at. It was at that point of my life when I decided something else deserved my focus. I was mentally and physically healthy, practicing various bio-hacking and fitness skills and a steady Yoga practitioner. However, those things just didn’t get at the root of what truly needed attention.
At the time, I recall searching for a personal coach to support me with my process. Unlike these days in the world of social media, where coaching businesses seem to be at every turn, it felt nearly impossible to connect with someone who provided what I was looking for and in a way that I could trust. A few years into searching, fortunate enough circumstances led me to eventually finding the right people. It was through that process and dialogue that put me on the path of where I am today.
Severance: Learning to Let Go
The Severance phase was a slower process for me. I stepped into numerous 1:1 sessions believing I knew what I wanted, ready to charge forward, only to find out that there were many layers of thoughts and emotions that simply needed to be metabolized first. The sessions veered in unexpected directions, resulting in an entirely different path and, at times, increased confusion. Eventually, through deep, reflective listening, I finally discovered what I truly wanted at that point in my life. I wanted to return to a felt sense of empowerment and clarity, where my external life began to reflect my internal truth; and I wanted to address that head-on, with humility and courage.
It was at that point when I decided I needed a temporary break from my career as I knew it. This was one of the most scary and risky decisions of my life but I trusted that there was going to be a light at the end of the tunnel. I believed that something needed to be sacrificed to create space for something new and significant to emerge.
This was a long process of unlearning. It was letting go of the illusion that fulfillment could be earned through externalizing and intellectuaizing everything, as I had believed for many years. It was learning how to recalibrate to my states of energy, to listen deeply, to feel, and to not rush toward the next solution. In those early months of stepping away, I began to see how much I wanted to begin investing in that quiet voice that had been locked up for many years.
There were no shortcuts here. I had to meet my own restlessness with patience, to consciously observe the old programming and decide how I wanted to live moving forward. At times, it felt like standing at the edge of something vast and unfamiliar. But I began to sense that what I was releasing was not just a career. It was a way of relating to life itself.
As I loosened my grip on who I thought I was supposed to be, a quiet awareness began to emerge. More time spent in nature replaced the constant rhythm of meetings and deadlines. Time outdoors became both teacher and mirror, showing me how to move at the pace of something more meaningful. The natural world did not feel rushed as the rivers didn’t resist their direction. Through many such reflections and metaphors, I began to remember a more natural rhythm that flowed within myself. It was through this more connected and contemplative process that my nervous system and view of the world was slowly resetting.
That period of Severance was uncomfortable, humbling, and ultimately liberating. It was the first time I learned that letting go doesn’t mean losing control. It means creating the space to reconnect with what is true and that truth is different for everyone. It marked the beginning of my release point: the moment where tension, awareness, and trust began to align, with a clear intention of my target.
“The greatest depths of magic are in the sacrifice for self love.”
Threshold: Stepping Into the Unknown
The space that followed letting go was both beautiful and unsettling. Severance had stripped away the noise and brought me closer to what I both wanted and needed but in its wake was silence…an unfamiliar stillness that at first felt like loss. Without the constant movement of deadlines and expectations, I began to meet the raw truth of what it means to be in-between.
The Threshold became a place of surrender, where I learned to be with uncertainty rather than try to outthink it. I asked for trust in something larger than my thoughts or circumstances. I found myself turning more often toward the natural world. Finding a sacred sit spot in nature, listening for a kind of guidance that didn’t come from logic but from presence; a full sensory awareness within my body. Returning to a nervous system baseline that was capable of drawing from the natural world.
There, surrounded by the rhythm of life itself, I began to experience a different kind of intelligence. The more I slowed down, the more I noticed how nature holds the answers to birth, decay, silence, movement.. infinite levels of meaning without judgment or urgency. I learned that it mirrors our own internal landscapes perfectly when we have the courage to see.
During this time, I sought mentorship and support from a council of mentors who could help me navigate this in-between space. Their presence, like good soil, gave me something stable to root into while I explored new layers of my inner world. I learned to listen to the body as much as the mind, to work with my nervous system rather than against it, to allow emotions to move instead of managing them.
Threshold taught me to walk with uncertainty rather than run from it. It became a space of deep initiation towards what I wanted to create in this lifetime; something more meaningful. I began to understand that transformation doesn’t happen by adding more, but by trusting what emerges when we stop trying to control the process.
This was where I experienced my own release point. The moment of quiet clarity when I realized that my work, my way of being, and my relationship with life were not separate. It wasn’t a dramatic breakthrough, but a steady unfolding, a coming home to a rhythm that had always been there.
“A river cuts through rock not because of its power but because of its persistence.”
- The Stoics Meditations
Incorporation: Bringing it Home
This phase was the most challenging and lengthiest of my journey. I believed that I had learned so much from my process and experiences yet I didn’t quite feel ready to embrace my renewed sense of identity. I wasn’t quite sure if I wanted to jump back into familiar career and enjoy my new states performance or to shift my passion into working for myself and aligning more closely with my vision and unique gifts. I knew that ladder was going to require a more lived experience.
In addition to working with my mentors, I had: completed many months of professional coursework programs, participated in and lead workshops that spanned the gamut from the realms of therapy to mens work, and read more books that I thought was possible in my lifetime. Despite that being the case, it didn’t come easy for me; there was absolutely no avoiding the personal application of everything I had learned. I would notice at times that the educational phase brought back a propensity to ‘externalize’ my learning (e.g. if I knew this, than that behavior would just happen) vs staying consistent with my own experiential practice of forming new habits and more importantly, habits that aligned with my values.
I had to bring my new levels of awareness to become radically accountable with myself. Taking personal responsibility in the acts of applying and tracking new and consistent behaviors. I had to be radically honest with myself and the relationship with my shadows; especially the sneaky ones that would hide in my virtues. I had to establish a healing practice for myself to keep any sneaky projections in check.
Through my studies in nature-connected and transformational coaching, I learned how to bridge the frameworks of modern psychology with the wisdom of ceremony and the intelligence of the natural world. It became clear that this work was never about fixing anyone — it was about remembering.
This phase also marked the beginning of what would become Release Point Coaching. I wanted to create spaces where others could experience their own unique journey of transformation. A process that honors both structure and mystery, that values awareness as much as action. Had I not spent years doing my own honest work, slugging through the pitfalls of transformation, I would not be a coach today.
Incorporation, for me, is the ongoing practice of living what I teach. It is how I integrate clarity and compassion into the way I work with clients, into how I parent, and how I move through the world. It’s the reminder that transformation isn’t something we reach and then hold onto; it’s something we embody, moment by moment, choice by choice.
When I look back now, I see that each phase can be a heroic journey within itself and the process continues to live in me. They aren’t steps to check off, but living patterns that move through all of us in different ways. This is the rhythm I help others recognize and trust.
I’m incredibly grateful that I had the time and patience to bring me to a place of supporting others with making a big shift in their life. That is the essence of Release Point Coaching. Transformation is not a destination, but a continual practice of becoming who we already are and patiently creating potential from that place.
Are you ready to create your story of transformation?